Fortitude Fridays #39

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Question For You:

What are your top words you use to describe yourself/situations?

and....

What could you replace them with and how would that change your daily experience with life?

Understanding the profound influence of language on our thoughts and emotions is pivotal, and by recognizing the words we habitually use, we gain insight into our overall mindset and perception of the world.

Moreover, engaging in this practice provides a chance to thoughtfully assess negative language, facilitating a deliberate transition to positive and empowering expressions.

Such a mindset shift holds the potential to shape a more optimistic outlook and contributes to personal well-being and resilience. Beyond internal benefits, choosing words wisely enhances effective communication, aids in goal setting, and promotes continuous improvement, aligning language with a growth-oriented mindset.

Fundamentally, asking these questions serves as a powerful tool for continual self-enhancement, nurturing adaptability, a willingness to embrace change, and a dedication to lifelong learning.

Challenge: Compile a list of 10-20 words/phrases you frequently use with a negative tone, and experiment with substituting them with neutral or more optimistic alternatives. Use these new words intentionally and observe the positive impact on your perspective.

My Answer: I've consciously replaced everyday words with more positive alternatives over the years, and one of my favorites is using 'sideways' in place of 'wrong' or 'terrible.' Now, instead of saying something is going wrong, I say it's going sideways. It may seem subtle, but it brings about a significantly different interpretation in my mind.

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Book to Check Out:

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius

(translated by Gregory Hays 2003)

"Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius (AD 161-180), written during his military campaigns, reflects on Stoic principles, virtue, and life's transience. The work explores leadership, ethics, and the dichotomy of control, emphasizing acceptance of fate. Not a systematic exposition, it delves into themes like virtue and self-discipline. Mindfulness and self-examination encourage personal growth, while duty and service are explored in relation to the Emperor's responsibilities, emphasizing integrity.

Amidst numerous insightful passages, one quote has earned its place as a personal favorite, highlighted for its profound resonance:

Having explored various works on Stoicism, I find Gregory Hays' translation of "Meditations" excellent. Its clarity, contemporary language, and accessibility skillfully convey Marcus Aurelius' everlasting wisdom, resonating with modern readers while preserving the reflective tone of the original.

Key Takeaway: A timeless classic, offering knowledge that has resonated through the ages and has been influential in both Stoic philosophy and broader discussions on ethics and the human experience.

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Tactic to Try:

December Writing Protocol to Improve Mental & Physical Health Going Into 2024

Context:

In our minds, memories create a varied gallery. Some are joyful, others carry regret. Yet for many, there's usually one memory that stands out, casting a subtle shadow. It goes beyond a mere snapshot; shaping our present, it conducts a quiet emotional symphony. Like a hum in the background, it's a constant reminder of a moment we wish we could alter in some capacity. But what if you could achieve this without any cost other than one hour of your time?

The Pennebaker Writing Protocol, developed by psychologist James W. Pennebaker, is a therapeutic writing technique that involves expressive writing about emotional experiences. Research suggests that engaging in expressive writing can have therapeutic benefits. It may help individuals process and make sense of traumatic or emotional experiences, leading to improvements in emotional well-being and physical health. With over 200 studies supporting its efficacy, the act of writing offers a simple yet powerful way to gain insights and closure. (source)​

Why does it work?

The Pennebaker Writing Protocol offers a potential avenue for reframing events through the lens of neuroplasticity. By engaging in expressive writing about significant events, individuals may activate brain regions associated with emotional processing, contributing to the reshaping of emotional responses to past experiences.

The act of consistently writing and reflecting encourages the formation of new neural connections, fostering fresh perspectives on these events. This process aligns with neuroplasticity principles, as the brain adapts and adjusts its thinking through repeated activities. The protocol's focus on cognitive flexibility, habitual change, and the strengthening of resilience may contribute to lasting positive shifts in how individuals perceive and respond to their past.

How it works:

1. Choose a Significant Event: Select a specific event or experience that has affected you emotionally. It could be a difficult event, a personal challenge, or any impactful situation. Doesn't matter if it occurred recently or decades ago.
2. Write Continuously: Set aside a specific time (usually 15-20 minutes) to write about the chosen event. Write continuously without worrying about grammar, spelling, or structure. Let your thoughts flow freely.
3. Repeat This for Four Days: Write about the same event each time. The original study said four consecutive days, other sources said once a week, four times total. Choose what makes sense for you.
4. Express Emotions and Reflect: Include your factual assessment of that event, including your feelings about the events. Reflect on how it has influenced your life, your perceptions, and your emotions. Be honest and delve into the details.

Things to Remember:

• Only you will read what you write.
• Whether you write by hand or type, it's up to you.
• If privacy is a concern, feel free to discard your writing after each session.
• Stick to writing about the same event in each 15-minute session.
• It is normal to not feel great after writing, especially the first time.
• Give yourself 5-10 minutes post writing session to do some deep breathing to relax if desired.

Research indicates that engaging in this protocol can result in notable improvements in sleep quality, mood, and even immune system function. It's important to highlight that you may not experience an immediate sense of well-being after the initial writing session, as revisiting challenging events can be difficult. However, the general trend is for individuals to feel significantly better after the fourth writing session compared to their emotional state before the first session.

Disclaimer: Just be aware that while expressive writing can benefit many, it may not be suitable for everyone, especially those facing serious trauma or mental health challenges. If you're dealing with such issues, take care of yourself and consider seeking help from a professional.

Bringing it Home:

Explore the Pennebaker Writing Protocol if you're looking to process a specific emotionally impactful event. Supported by over 200 studies, this therapeutic technique involves expressing your thoughts about the event for 15-20 minutes, four times in total. Studies suggest it can lead to significant improvements in sleep, mood, and immune system function, offering a straightforward yet potent approach to gaining profound insights and closure. As we boldly stride into 2024, own your if with this intentional step toward lasting emotional well-being.

I highly recommend listening to this recent episode by the Huberman Lab, covering this topic. Hat tip to them for inspiring me to dive into this subject.

I'll be starting this protocol on Sunday, December 10th, and wrapping it up on New Year's Eve. Would you like to join me? If so, please feel free to hit 'reply' to this newsletter and respond with 'I'm in!'

 

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Thanks for reading and I hope you have a thought-provoking weekend! Until next week...

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