Fortitude Fridays #22

Read Time: 5 mins

 

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Quote to Ponder:

"Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity."

- Seneca

​Luck arises from being prepared, seizing opportunities, and proactive efforts, not just randomness.

Diligence and readiness create a rich soil for luck to grow.

 

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Question to Ask Yourself:

"So what?"

This small question holds incredible power. How often do external judgments or negativity stifle our progress? How frequently does our inner voice echo those doubts, holding us back from new endeavors?

Imagine if, instead of succumbing, we simply asked,

"And...So what?"

By shifting focus from negativity to personal resolve, we defy its impact, nurture resilience, and forge an unshakable self-defined worth. This mindset fuels confidence and breaks the grip of both internal and external criticism.

Recognizing that others' views or negativity can't stop you is transformative. It turns you into something fearsome for the critics and naysayers – untouchable.

The next time negativity surfaces, remember to ask yourself, "So what?" Allow it to become your path to empowerment.

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My Answer: While embracing a journey of career shifts, the unfamiliar terrain of entrepreneurship, and conquering perfectionism, this question has transformed into a mantra. My path is paved with magnificent failures, a testament to my stubborn yet hopeful spirit. Certainty often eludes me, and sharing insightful videos across social media opens doors to unwelcome critiques from strangers. Yet, I stand committed to learning, growing, and unapologetically chasing my passions. Do I hold all answers? Nope. So what? Still gonna go for it.

 

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Book to Check Out:

Shoe Dog: A Memoir by the Creator of Nike

by Phil Knight

This story showcases the fusion of sports, culture, and entrepreneurship while offering insights into Knight's personal struggles and leadership. It's a compelling tale of Nike's evolution, a testament to perseverance, innovation, and the building a global powerhouse brand.

I really enjoyed this book; and I admit I was sad to finish it. Being an athlete throughout my life, my feet have donned countless Nikes. Discovering their origin story adds a rich layer to my connection, reminding me of all the practices, hours in the gym, and sore muscles I earned chasing the "Just Do It" mentality. So awesome.

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Key Take Away: Knight is an accomplished story teller, leading us through an inspiring entrepreneurial saga, insights into brand building, innovation, and leadership, all wrapped in Nike's remarkable journey.

 

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Tactic to Try: The Alter Ego Effect

Ever felt hindered by fear, insecurities, or imposter syndrome? Know that you're not alone.

Fear, a natural response to threats and challenges, is an integral part of the human experience. Alongside this, Imposter Syndrome affects a significant 70-80% of individuals at some point in their lives. It particularly takes root among ambitious high achievers who venture to the precipice of their current competency.

In the inspiring journeys of Beyoncé, Adele, David Bowie, Kobe Bryant, and David Goggins, a recurring theme emerges: the presence of daunting hurdles and adverse emotions in the pursuit of their dreams. Yet, a singular strategy galvanized them in their internal struggle. Enter the alter ego — a potent arsenal in conquering doubt, anxiety, and the fear of failure.

Beyoncé summoned Sasha Fierce to vanquish stage fright, Adele ingeniously melded Beyoncé's Sasha Fierce with June Carter to combat anxiety, and David Bowie embraced Ziggy Stardust for unbridled creativity. Kobe Bryant embraced "The Black Mamba" for resilience and a competitive edge, while David Goggins invoked "Goggins" for unwavering focus and mental fortitude. These alter egos served as formidable defenses against self-doubt and fear, emblematic of transcending limitations.

Within the realm of psychology, the creation of an alter ego or character invention finds a kinship with Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). NLP delves into the intricate interplay among neurology (neuro), language (linguistic), and patterns of behavior/thought (programming). It fashions a toolbox of techniques and strategies to decipher and recalibrate human behavior patterns, communication dynamics, and personal growth. These transformative methods empower individuals to craft imaginative personas through the synergy of creativity, visualization, and strategic psychology, culminating in the embodiment of desired traits and behaviors.

But why does creating an alter ego wield such power?

Using an alter ego generates a surge in confidence by creating a buffer from your insecurities, enabling fearless experimentation. It sparks mindset shifts, dismantles self-limiting beliefs, and orchestrates emotional regulation. Through role-play, your alter ego equips you to tackle challenges, reinforcing triumphant outcomes. Symbolizing your desired qualities, the alter ego severs the ties to inhibitions, thus curbing fear and fueling growth.

This transformative concept isn't exclusive to performers—it's harnessed by CEOs, authors, entrepreneurs, scientists, parents, students, and even children. It's a technique accessible to all. It can also occur in a variety of contexts-before a big work presentation, in the gym as you try and build a new exercise habit, or at home after a long day and you want to be present for your family. By stepping into these alternate personas, individuals can unlock a wellspring of confidence, creativity, and resilience, propelling them to extraordinary success despite adversity.

Todd Herman, a performance coach and author, presents a systematic process for creating an alter ego to elevate performance and surpass limitations, as detailed in his book “The Alter Ego Effect.” You can check out his website here.

Here's how it works:

1. Identify Desired Traits: Determine specific qualities, attributes, or skills you aim to enhance through your alter ego (e.g., confidence, assertiveness, creativity).
2. Choose/Create/Name the Alter Ego: Select a persona embodying your desired traits. Craft a comprehensive description, including personality, traits, behaviors, and backstory. Assign a name that captures the essence and qualities you wish to embody.
3. Visualize/Personify: Envision yourself stepping into your alter ego’s persona. Imagine their mannerisms, speech, and interactions.
4. Triggering Transformation: Develop cues, whether physical or mental, to seamlessly transition into your alter ego’s mindset.
5. Practice, Application, and Adjustment: Practice integrating your alter ego into various situations, initially starting with low-stakes scenarios and progressing to more challenging ones. Refine and adapt your alter ego’s persona based on evolving objectives.
6. Integration and Transformation: Gradually infuse your daily life with your alter ego’s desired qualities and behaviors. Strive for a natural embodiment of your alter ego’s traits, minimizing the need for conscious effort.
7. Maintenance and Growth: Continuously nurture and refine your alter ego as your personal development journey unfolds. Embrace new challenges and adjust your alter ego’s persona to align with evolving aspirations.

I’ve discovered that embracing the alter ego concept has been a remarkable enhancement to my life, enabling me to enter various arenas with newfound poise and a confidence I once believed was beyond my reach. What’s more, I’ve uncovered that adopting the attire of my crafted alter ego or immersing myself in a playlist I envision as their “soundtrack” amplifies the impact even further. The ability to seamlessly activate my alter ego is a potent tool with boundless potential. It offers an invaluable mechanism to channel untapped strengths and capabilities, enabling me to navigate challenges with an unwavering spirit.

I encourage you to spend some time thinking about how you craft your alter ego and see where it leads you! Feel free to reply to this email and tell me about your alter ego and how it has helped you!

Bringing it all together:

1. Identify Your Stages: Pinpoint where you want to shine brightest. Whether it’s the grand stage of a TED talk or the everyday choices of healthy living and early morning workouts – every chance to excel counts.
2. Evoke Your Persona: Imagine your character taking control. Dive into their qualities, presence, and interactions. Immerse yourself in the essence of who they are – see it, feel it, own it.
3. Become the Character: Practice is your ally. Embrace this persona in those defining moments. Feel the transformation as you embody your finest self.

Keep in mind, your daily actions forge your identity. Embrace this, and watch your world ignite with transformation.

Your journey begins now.

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Thanks for reading and I hope you have an outstanding weekend! Until next week...

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