Fortitude Fridays #64

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A few ideas as you head into the weekend.

Snapshot of Today:

  • Quote: End Goal vs Daily Grind.
  • Question: Making Tomorrow Easier.
  • Book: Right Thing, Right Now by Ryan Holiday.
  • Tactic: How to the Get Results You Want for Anything.


Quote to Motivate:

You don't get results by focusing on results. You get results by focusing on the actions that produce results.

-Mike Hawkins (Author)

Stop obsessing over the end goal.

Channel your energy into the daily grind that will actually get you there.

Stay focused, stay committed, and you will see results.


Question to Ask Again and Again:

What can I do today to make tomorrow easier?

I ask myself this multiple times a day. It applies to most situations and can make a significant difference. Five minutes today could save a mountain of stress tomorrow.

Give it a try and start thinking ahead. It forces you to plan smart, stay disciplined, and avoid problems before they happen. This shift from reacting to preventing cuts down stress and boosts productivity. It gives you control over your future, builds confidence, and helps you tackle important tasks on time. Be mindful and intentional—make each day count. This habit builds quiet resilience, so you’re ready for anything.

I realize this is very similar to last week’s question, but I thought it expanded on it nicely.


Book I'm Excited to Check Out:

Right Thing, Right Now: Good Values. Good Character. Good Deeds.

By Ryan Holiday

If you've been receiving Fortitude Fridays for a while, you may have noticed I'm a fan of Stoic teachings and Ryan Holiday's books. This newly released book is the third installment in his Stoic Virtues Series. I've read (and loved) the previous two, Discipline is Destiny and Courage is Calling, and I'm very excited to dive into this one on my trip to Washington, DC this weekend.

Here is the description from The Daily Stoic:

For the ancients, everything worth pursuing in life flowed from a strong sense of justice—or one’s commitment to doing the right thing, no matter how difficult. In order to be courageous, wise, and self-disciplined, one must begin with justice. The influence of the modern world often tells us that acting justly is optional. Holiday argues that that’s simply untrue—and the fact that so few people today have the strength to stand by their convictions explains much about why we’re so unhappy.

In Right Thing, Right Now, Holiday draws on fascinating stories of historical figures such as Marcus Aurelius, Florence Nightingale, Jimmy Carter, Gandhi, and Frederick Douglass, whose examples of kindness, honesty, integrity, and loyalty we can emulate as pillars of upright living. Through the lives of these role models, readers learn the transformational power of living by a moral code and, through the cautionary tales of unjust leaders, the consequences of an ill-formed conscience.

The Stoics never claimed that living justly was easy, only that it was necessary. And that the alternative—sacrificing our principles for something lesser—was considered only by cowards and fools. Right Thing, Right Now is a powerful antidote to the moral failures of our modern age, and a manual for living virtuously.

Tactic to Try: Shifting from Outcomes to Behaviors for Lasting Results

When people talk about their health and fitness goals, they often say things like:

"I want to lose 20 pounds."

"I want to be less stressed."

"I want to run a sub 30-minute 5K."

These are all examples of outcome-based goals—goals that focus on a desired outcome or result. It’s fine to frame goals like this in casual conversation. But it’s not so great for actually improving or progressing toward that goal. That’s because wanting an outcome isn’t enough. (Even if you really, really, REALLY want it.)

Why? Because we (usually) can’t control outcomes. You can have a crystal-clear vision of your goal—plus all the motivation in the world—but then:

  • You get slammed with work.
  • Your kid goes through a mental health crisis.
  • Your gym closes for, like, TWO YEARS.
  • You develop problems sleeping.
  • Your knee decides it hates running.

And poof! There goes your goal—up in smoke. Staring at the ashes of your former goals can feel like a personal failure. However, you might’ve had little to do with your goal not working out. It’s just that things beyond your control—work, other people, your biology—didn’t cooperate.

But if results are out of your hands… how are you supposed to improve at anything??

Meet behavior-based goals. Behavior-based goals are centered on the ACTIONS you take, like eating slowly at every meal, practicing a daily meditation session, or doing some type of training or active recovery most days of the week. Because you have MUCH more control over your behaviors, behavior-based goals are more effective—and more empowering.

Here are a few examples of turning outcome goals into behavior goals:

EXAMPLE 1

  • Outcome goal: Lower blood sugar
  • Behavior goal: Take a 20-minute daily walk

EXAMPLE 2

  • Outcome goal: Sleep 8 hours a night
  • Behavior goal: Create a calming bedtime routine and start it 30 minutes before bedtime

EXAMPLE 3

  • Outcome goal: Improve relationship with partner
  • Behavior goal: Have a date night once a week

How it Works:

  1. Write down the outcome you want. (Let’s say it’s, “Lose 20 pounds.”)
  2. Write down some skills you think you’ll need to get that outcome. (For example, one might be “meal prep.”)
  3. Write down a behavior you can do today that’ll help build those skills. (“Buy and wash blueberries, and put them in a container that’s easily accessible.”)
  4. Try to do the behavior consistently. (In the example above, maybe you prep a bunch of fruit each Sunday so you have healthy snacks available all week.)

You may not always follow through, and that’s okay. Progress is almost never a straight line in the direction you want to head. But by focusing on the behavior and not just “lose 20 pounds,” you keep your attention on the part you can control. That’s truly how you achieve amazing things over time.

Bringing It Home:

As a nurse and coach, I’ve seen (and experienced myself) firsthand how life’s unexpected twists can derail even the most well-intentioned plans. It’s easy to feel discouraged when outcomes slip away due to circumstances beyond our control.

Remember, progress isn’t always linear. You may stumble along the way, and that’s okay. The journey toward a healthier lifestyle is about making small, manageable changes over time. By focusing on behaviors rather than outcomes, you stay committed to what truly matters—taking care of yourself, one step at a time.

So, the next time you think about your health and fitness goals, consider shifting your mindset from outcomes to behaviors. It’s not about the destination—it’s about the journey and the habits you build along the way. That’s how you create lasting change and achieve remarkable things in your life.


Thanks for reading! I hope you have a feisty weekend. Until next week...

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